Ahhh, yes.... the ultimate parental fantasy!
Your reasons don't really matter.
Some parents want their kids to read more in order to keep up their test scores in school.
Others simply want their children to spend their time more productively (or to leave that video game console alone!)
There is a reason why you want your little pumpkins to read more and any reason that you just thought of - is a good reason in my book.
Kids reading = Kids learning.
It is true.
But if your kids are not reading or they do not love books, we need to address this problem.
All You Need Is Love
There's nothing you can do that can't be done
Have you heard of the 10,000 hour rule?
If you invest 10,000 hours of practice into something (violin practice, language learning, drawing, skateboarding, etc.), you will cross the threshold that will make you an expert in that certain discipline.
Simply put, he claims that being excellent at something isn’t easy.
But it is a lot more simple than you might be led to believe.
His basic position is that there's probably no such thing as innate talent or, if there is, it is highly overrated.
Anders Ericsson published some exciting research in the last decade of the 20th century.
He and his fellow scientists split student violinists into three categories ranked by excellence at the Berlin Music Academy and then correlated hours of practice with achievement.
In Ericsson's own words: "I went to Berlin in 1987 for two years and did research on violinists. At the time, people thought that the really top violinists would be training less than the less accomplished at that academy because they had this natural talent."
"...so by the time they returned to England from Hamburg, Germany, 'they sounded like no one else. It was the making of them.'"
For excellence in reading ... all you need is ... reading.
Banal? Or is it?
What does all this mean for your kid?
Don't Talk The Talk
Love is being stupid together
If love is indeed being stupid together, then we need to be more stupid.
Stop rationalizing your kid's "reading problem" and start loving children's books.
There is other way about it.
Oh yes, did I mention - forget about acting.
If you just pretend to love books, your kids will know that it is just make-believe.
You have to fall head over heels in love with books - children's books - if you want your kids to love books for the long haul.
Do you want to help your child become an expert?
To master the master skill?
Then help him/her invest thousands of hours into reading.
It is easy to say - but how to do this, you ask?
Read Aloud Dad says - if you are fighting for every minute of reading, you are already fighting a losing battle.
In fact, you are on the wrong battleground altogether.
If you really want to win this battle, look into the mirror. There lies your enemy.
The real battleground is YOUR reading.
Do your kids see YOU enjoying books?
Are you reading aloud together daily?
Do you go to the library together?
Are you secretly staying awake at night searching online for the best children's books to share with your kid?
Do you know Ye olde book store inside out?
Do you laugh with your kid while enjoying the latest children's bestsellers?
Are you digging up your old copies of timeless classics of children's literature from your cellar to read together with your boy/girl?
If the answer to most of these questions is no, ask yourself - can you do more to support your kids to become superior readers?
Hundreds of hours. Thousands of hours.
Read aloud, take part of the heavy load off your child's shoulders.
Don't ask for discipline, if you cannot show it yourself.
For every hour you invest reading with your kid, they will probably read 10 or twenty times more.
Look in the mirror, if you just see a parent and not an avid reader - it means you have left your kid to fight on the frontline alone.
If you want your kid to love books and reading, today it is no longer enough to love your child.
The #1 way to excite your children about reading is for YOU to fall in love with children's books.
Love is infectious.
So, start reading.
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